Coaching Could Light the Way

Written by Mission Next Consulting

The International Coaching Federation (ICF) defines coaching as “an ongoing professional relationship that helps people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers, businesses or organizations. Through the process of coaching, clients deepen their learning, improve their performance, and enhance their quality of life”. Coaching can encourage you to see and appreciate your true self, understand how you see others, and gain awareness of how others see you. What can a coach do for you?

It took you years to get to this point. You aren’t going to walk away from your first coaching session as a brand-new person, but if you grant yourself permission to fully engage in this space, it could be the start of a transforming journey for you.

Provide a Trusted Relationship

For many people, it can be incredibly difficult to find honest feedback from the closest people in your life such as friends and family. These people often share a comfort zone with us, or they have a long history with our choices, including our mistakes. A good coach will be there to provide invaluable, unbiased feedback on your progress. 

Trust is fundamental to all coaching conversations. Both you and your coach need to feel safe when working together. Both of you need to know that you can trust each other to engage in meaningful conversations and work. Expect to have an explicit conversation about the parameters of confidentiality which will include an agreement that the coach will not share any of your conversations without express permission (except when they are required under the coaching ethics guidelines to do so).

Once you establish trust with a coach, he or she will be able to help you develop a greater sense of self-awareness, understand the gaps in your skills and knowledge, create a plan to fill those gaps, and improve your mindset as you prepare for a life transition. 

Create Accountability

Your motivation may waiver each day – or even from morning until evening. Some days, you might be excited to work on your values, or draft a cover letter, while other days start with a desire to catch up on yesterday’s sports highlights.

Having a coach makes you accountable. You should expect your coach to help you set tasks with deadlines. Though it may feel like you can do this yourself, the coach gives you a reason to make the commitment. The coach can also give perspective on unrealistic deadlines or unpack reasons that you aren’t making progress.

You and your coach will create a schedule which will require regular check-in’s. He or she will be there to give you bits of encouragement and ways to get unstuck. For example, you might meet every Wednesday morning and then update your goal sheet by the end of Friday each week. The structured process is a great way to move goals forward while feeling supported and encouraged.

Guide You Through the Change Process

You know this transition is going to be a real change. This is a no-kidding, preparation-needed, attention-required change in your life. So, you can’t think of this change as merely checking the boxes and moving forward. Having a change expert by your side will help you understand and accept the challenges that are bound to develop.

After you define and execute on both your small and large goals, you will be ready for  experimentation and practice. You won’t change overnight but a coach can help speed up the process. Some of your tasks or new skills will challenge you immensely while others might be a lot easier for you. A coach can help you experiment and try new things when you’re operating in this space. You will be encouraged to keep track of what you’re doing and how you feel while doing those new things.

Push You Out of Your Comfort Zone

A good coach will push you – and that’s one of the main reasons you want a coach at your side... Intellectually, you know that your dreams in this next phase depend on leaving your comfort zone, but it can be hard to take those steps sometimes.

You may have some brilliant visions about what this next phase could look like and what opportunities you could have. How do you turn those thoughts into action?  A coach embraces your ideas and won’t stop pushing until you make it happen. Essentially, you’re paying someone to keep you on the path even when you want to stop or wander back to what’s comfortable.

Coaching is not Professional Therapy

Adjusting to life changes can be extremely stressful for the individual and his or her family. While our coaching process and the books are designed to support clients through life transitions, it is not a replacement for professional support. Therapists are trained mental health professionals with the goal of treating mental illness. If you are struggling with a mental health condition, it may be helpful to speak to a therapist to become better able to adjust to the uncontrollable aspects of the transition.